Updated: Jun 20
Do you have someone in your life whom you see and know that he or she is your person? A friend, relative, a partner, or someone you just randomly met. Well according to google my person means such person is your go-to. Your friendship has no limits, you will be best friends and each other's person until the day you die, and even then, the friendship is too strong to end by even that.
Okay. So in today's world where everybody has got a reason to be with someone, we are talking about a concept where you are ready to do anything for that one special person. Asking a few people about who is their 'person' and why got us the following answers:- Varun - "My person is my mom. I have friends but no one as close to being called my person. They are there but its more like we are together in fun but not in sorrows and problems." Geetanjali - "My person is Sonam. My best friend. We did everything together and she is always there for me. She is miles away yet she is always there for me." Rizwan- "My person is my big brother. He may not know where I am or what I am up to but whenever I ask him for help, he is always there. He has been my pillar throughout life."
What we can see here is people do think that they have someone who or for whom they can climb mountains or cross seven seas. cliche enough? But it is true? Honestly, we can't say for sure, because you can't have one person in every aspect of your life. They are surely there to support you but they can't be there in each step of your life. But the more important question which arises here is whether it is important to have all-time support in your life. Are you missing on life if you don't have someone who is always just one call away from you when you need him or her? Does this prove that you are not good enough or likable or just not lucky to have a close person in your life?
The answer here is NO. You are not unwanted, unlikeable, unlucky, or weirdo. You are perfectly normal. If you have a few good friends, supporting parents, and just basically fine humans around you than you are doing perfectly fine. You don't need to feel self-conscious or indulge in self-depreciation.
I am not going to console you here saying that it's fine, not everybody got an 'always standing like a shadow person' by their side. What's more important to understand here is that why do we even need a person to always be there for us. Aren't we strong enough to handle things by ourselves? We have talents we have intelligence then why to cry over stupid reason and waste your precious time. You can't make people like you. They will like you if they have to. It depends on them not you. Then why should you ever worry? Bernard M. Baruch has said- "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.”
So according to me the concept of my person is overhyped. You are your true person. Everyone else can make your journey easier but you have to fight your own battle.
“Don't compromise yourself - you're all you have.” ― John Grisham, The Rainmaker